Sorry to hear you’re going through all this. You’re right. The process of saving one’s marriage is a bit complicated and in fact, does NOT make use of the “no contact” rule… but this is why I’ve released a second book called Mend the Marriage. Check it out at http://www.marriageguy.com as everything is on there, from how to communicate more effectively, down to how to handle the kids (if applicable), monitor your progress through worksheets and stuff. But while I certainly need more information to know what’s going on between you two for sure, I suggest you check out more marriage-saving tips which you may find useful, check out this new channel I’ve dedicated solely for this purpose. Here’s the link: How to Save Your Marriage or sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program. Talk soon?

Getting over an affair and rebuilding trust takes teamwork and she seems to be on board as well. Try to apply the tips from this vid: How to Rebuild Trust After An Affair.

My husband tells me he isn’t in love with me anymore and that I’m basically boring him. He says it’s been building for years but honestly it’s really only been an issue for the last 2 years since I’ve had health issues. Our sex life has drastically suffered as well as our social life as I am in pain 24/7 from my health conditions. He was quite understanding at first but now he wants out. (Apparently through sickness and in health doesn’t apply to him ). At first he wanted to have an open marriage so we would still be together but he’d get to go sleep with and have relationships with other women (I believe this is strictly a financial issue as he doesn’t want to lose all our assets). But I am not ok with this arrangement. I’ve been trying to do small things to improve myself and not being so negative all the time (which is difficult when you are in pain a lot and have limited mobility) but he thinks it’s all “fake” and that I’m just trying to manipulate him. I honestly don’t feel I can save us. Any advice?

I understand and I’m sorry to hear you’re going through this. Try to apply the tips from this video but he has to do his part as well: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FNa8nYnposM But if you find yourself still having trouble, I do need to know more about your entire situation, so consider signing up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can guide one or both of you accordingly, at http://www.marriageguy.com/coaching

Really sorry to hear you’re going through this. Yes, this is a fact… for a marriage or a relationship to work, there has to be trust in it. Your peace of mind should come first. Looks like you would need a new travel buddy. Wish you well. Take time to heal and take care!

Sorry to hear that. While I certainly need more information to know what’s going on between you two for sure, I suggest you check out more marriage-saving tips which you may find useful, check out this new channel I’ve dedicated solely for this purpose. Here’s the link: http://y2u.be/dr2JTi_bCRU