Improve Your Relationship: Make It Feel New Again

The beginning of a new relationship can make your feel like you’re floating. Inside, your stomach is fluttering with butterflies, and on the surface, you’re nothing but smiles and laughter. It feels like you’re living a fairy tale that you never want to end. But as time passes, the butterflies settle down and the magical moments become less enchanting and more ordinary.

If the fireworks have left your relationship and you don’t know how to get the spark back, fear not. It’s possible to make your relationship feel like new again with these easy tips.  

Be Spontaneous

Do you remember in the beginning of your relationship, how things just happened? There was no reason or rhyme for what you did together, no routine and no excuses.

Drinking wine on a work night together seemed dreamy, and the late night movie was never “too late.” Unplanned road trips made sense, and foreign foods opened your eyes to worlds you didn’t know existed. Those are the nights you’ll never forget and the memories you’ll cherish forever. You have spontaneity to thank for those moments.

As your relationship grows, so does your routine. While shared routines can be great, it’s important to also be spontaneous every now and then, especially if you’re looking to make your relationship feel like it did in the beginning.

Touch Each Other

Remember the electrifying feeling you got when you and your partner just held hands, or the goosebumps you’d get when they grazed your leg? In the beginning of a new relationship, it can be tough to keep your hands off one another, but as time passes and comfort sets in, it’s easy to let these loving gestures slip away.

To make your love life feel like it did in the beginning, make a conscious effort to get your hands back on one another. Hold hands when you walk to the store, and bear hug each other in the middle of the night.

Physical touch will not only make you feel more connected, but it can also reignite sparks.  

Kiss Like You Mean It

We all remember our first kiss with our partner, but do you remember the last one you shared? Like touching, kissing dominates the beginning of any new relationship, and it’s amazing how quickly time can pass when you’re lip locked on the couch. As your relationship grows, kissing can turn into more of a routine than a passionate act. Unfortunately, once we get past the hot and heavy makeout stage, we tend to stay past it.

Well, it’s time to bring back the kisses! A steamy makeout session is one of the most fun things to do with your partner. Not only will it bring back the butterflies, but it can also be a great way to shift your relationship from a washed up re-play to red hot romance!

Express Your Feelings

In the first few months of dating, you felt a high like no other when your partner shared their feelings with you. Perhaps they left you cute notes, or maybe they vocally expressed compliments, either way, you were left glowing for hours. Sharing your feelings with one another was a way of bonding.

However, once your relationship was on lockdown and you knew you had won each other over, those affectionate words and compliments became few and far between.

As busy as you both may be, take the time to verbally appreciate one another and share your feelings.

Tell your partner you love them, and send each other cute, flirty text messages again. If you want to try something different, try handwritten notes or unexpected tokens that express your love.

Leave these on their car window, or slip it into their lunch bag. It doesn’t take much to show your partner how you feel, yet taking the time to do so will do wonders for your relationship.

Reminisce About Your Relationship

In the beginning you had stories to share, backgrounds to learn, and a blank slate to build a relationship and create memories. As time passes, and you’re invested in sharing your lives together, it’s normal to run out of stories to share. The good news is that you have plenty of shared memories to reminisce on.

A great way to bring back the feelings you felt in the start is by reminiscing about your beginning. Talk about how you met, the things you did together, and the places you’ve been. Laugh about the funny experiences you’ve shared, gush about the cute gestures and relive the unforgettable moments. Now could also be the time to spill the feelings you haven’t confessed and tell your partner the ways they made you weak at the knees.

Redo Dating

If your once romantic date nights have turned into fast food and Netflix, then it’s time to turn this around. One of the easiest ways to bring back feelings you felt in the beginning is by planning actual date nights again – or better yet, don’t plan them, just make them happen!

Try going on dates neither of you have ever been on before. Hit up a new restaurant, travel to a different city, go on an outdoor adventure together. Get dressed up, buy a new outfit, and go for a night on the town. Have dinner, do drinks and don’t worry about how much that double martini is going to cost. Be polite, laugh lots and most importantly, have fun together!  

Sleep Together

Getting enough sleep with your partner is important. In the beginning of your relationship, going to bed together was probably one of your favourite parts of the day. It was a time that you cuddled, got intimate, chatted, and laughed. But, as time passes and new habits form, the dreamy idea of sleeping next to one another can fade away, and when it does, so can the intimacy.

If you want to bring back feelings from the beginning of your relationship, then make an effort to sleep together more often. It can be tough to have a shared sleep schedule if you have conflicting schedules, but when possible, make it happen. Besides, what’s better than waking up to your lover in the morning?

Spice Up Your Sex Life

A lack of intimacy can be the death of a relationship, so make things feel like the beginning by keeping your sex life alive and exciting. For no reason should you be feeling like you do the same old song and dance between the sheets.

Spice up your moves, do it in new places, and be passionate like you were in the beginning. Ask your partner about their desires, fantasies and what turns them on. Making love is meant to be fun, so go on, and take a walk on the wild side.

Amy North

Amy North, BA, BSc, is a woman’s best friend. If you’re searching for the man of your dreams, or you want make your boyfriend stay devoted to you, then Amy North is your gal! Amy's incredibly popular YouTube channel, which boasts over 340,000 subscribers and 20+ million views, helps women learn how to get what they want out of their relationships. Her best-selling program, The Devotion System, reveals a number of psychological ‘hot buttons’ that make any man 'tick', and teaches readers how to use simple techniques and phrases to make any man love you.