Sorry to hear that, Alysha… obviously there are times when a man’s porn habits will be a threat to your relationship, but most of the time that’s not the case.

Did he ask you to do something you weren’t willing to do? Sometimes porn (if it’s the right type of porn) can offer ideas that you and your partner can try to spice up your sex life.

If he asks you to do something you don’t want to do, then you can decline and explain to him why you’re not comfortable with it. You can ask him not to watch porn anymore — especially if it is creating unrealistic expectations of you in the bedroom — but you should still understand that most of the time, a man occasionally watching porn is not, in itself, a big deal.