9 Sneaky Mind Games To Trick Your Ex Into Taking You Back

You want your ex to take you back, right?

Wouldn’t you do anything to make them return to you?

If you’re cool with employing a few little mind games on your ex to make him or her yearn for your love and attention again, then keep reading.

9 Sneaky Ways To Trick Your Ex

I’m going to cover the top 9 psychological tactics to make your ex wish that they never broke up with you. It’s taken me years and years of research to come up with these tips and I’m going to share them with you now.

1. Use The Law of Pre-selection To Your Advantage.

Have you ever heard of pre-selection? It’s an important psychological trick that you should be employing as soon as possible.

NOTE: this works even if you’re single and you’re looking for a potential partner… so in the event that you don’t want your ex back, keep this tip in the back of your mind.

The law of pre-selection states that the more a person is highly sought after by the opposite sex, the more desirable they become to them. It’s, in essence, a positive feedback loop.

The more people you attract, the more likely you will attract even MORE singles… and your ex is no exception.

Maybe you’ve observed this phenomenon in your life – maybe a bunch of your friends began crushing on this one guy or girl at your work… and even though they might not be your type, the fact that your friends are clamouring over this one person makes them seem a bit more appealing, right?

There are a multitude of ways to showcase pre-selection, but one of the best ways is through word of mouth.

Here… try this little sneaky tactic on for size…

Think about a very chatty and “gossipy” mutual friend that you share with your ex, and ask him or her out for coffee.

Then come up with a story about how there are two girls or guys that are just constantly asking you out on dates… but come up with an entertaining story so that it’s totally memorable.

You’re banking on the fact that this chatty friend is going to blab to your ex about all the gossip that they just heard.

Once your ex gets wind of how highly sought after you are, they’re going to be second guessing their decision to break up with you in no time.

Like I said, pre-selection is something that is highly effective for even single people as well – so if for whatever reason, you decide to NOT get back together with your ex, then using this sneaky, psychological tactic for your dating life will work like a charm!

2. Make Your Ex Feel FOMO

Ever heard of FOMO? It’s an acronym for “Fear of Missing Out”.

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It’s a powerful psychological phenomenon in this day and age.

Ever see pictures on your friend’s Instagram of an amazing party or crazy travelling adventure?
Ever get that feeling that you just NEED to join them?

The next time they ask you out for an adventure, chances are you’re going to say yes because you’ll have a “Fear of Missing Out” on the experience!

You can induce this sort of feeling inside your ex’s mind quite easily… all you have to do is showcase to the world that you’re living the best life possible… and you can do this by showing off some pictures on your Instagram, Facebook, or Snapchat.

You don’t even have to book a crazy overseas trip to Singapore, too… you can just show videos and pictures from an incredible hike you did, or a cozy camping trip you did with a few friends.

Once your ex sees how much fun you’re having, you’re going to induce massive amounts of FOMO inside his or her mind… and it’ll only be a matter of time before they start messaging YOU and asking you to hang out again.

3. Use Jealousy To Your Advantage

I know, this one is a bit manipulative, but using jealousy is one of the most effective ways to get your ex back.

In my program, The Ex Factor Guide, I share dozens of jealousy-inducing tips that are guaranteed to make your ex want to come crawling back to you in no time. But today, I’m only going to cover one ESPECIALLY useful tactic… and I call it the “Jealousy Text”.

Okay, so to better explain this text message, let’s jump right into an example. You could say something like…

Hey! What was the name of that cute pottery shop we went to last summer? The one with the purple teapots. I want to take a friend there tomorrow night!

Here’s another quick example…

Hey, remember that cute Greek restaurant that we went to for New Years? What was the name of that restaurant again? I want to take a friend there this weekend!

And that’s pretty much it. Don’t be too specific… that is, don’t say that you’re taking someone as a date. Leave your ex wondering WHO you’re taking and what your intentions are with them.

If you prime your ex correctly, their minds will be RACING with thoughts of losing you to another person, and they’ll start getting CRAZY jealous.

4. Focus On Self-Improvement

I know, this isn’t so much a sneaky psychological tactic on your ex… but it IS a sneaky psychological tactic on YOURSELF! Self-improvement takes form in many ways, but one of the absolute best forms of self-improvement is to hit the gym.

Not only will you look way sexier (which will obviously help re-attract your ex into your life), but working out actually releases a ton of “feel good” hormones inside your body.

Getting your ex back isn’t just about “faking it until you make it.” You need to assume the perspective of a highly confident and attractive person, and working out is absolutely one of the best ways to achieve this goal for a multitude of reasons. So instead of staying home alone, go out for a run or hit the weights! You’ll be glad you did.

5. Use “Reverse Psychology” On Your Ex

Now this tip might not be useful for you if you talking with your ex. But if you are, using reverse psychology on your ex can prove very useful.

But again, like with all of my tips, you have to proceed with caution and make sure you’re using this advice properly and at the right time… but if you use this tactic correctly, it can have a very powerful effect!

So for example, you could say something to your ex along the lines of…

“You know what, I think it’s good that we broke up… I think we really needed this time apart.”

Or how about something like…

“I think breaking up has allowed me to focus more on myself. I think this will be good for me.”

Something subtle like this can send a very sneaky message to your ex that you’ve moved on, and force your ex to constantly wonder why your feelings have changed so dramatically.

Sometimes, giving your ex this sense of “loss” can be enough to kick them back into gear and force them to start chasing you again like a dog on raw meat.

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7. Learn To Say No

Again, for this to work, you need to be on talking-terms with your ex.

One of the biggest mistakes people make when trying to get their ex back is that they become far too agreeable. They’ll roll over and do whatever their ex asks of them, no matter the circumstance.

This is low “social-value” behaviour and it will only push your ex further and further away. Instead, learn to say “NO” to your ex – by doing so, you’ll show your ex that you’re independent and that you have a backbone.

People are scientifically attracted to these characteristics, so once your ex sees that you’re sticking up for what you want, you will become a lot more attractive to him or her… don’t be surprised if your ex begins texting you more, wanting to spend time with you more, and feeling desperate to see you all…the…time!

8. Always Appear Positive And Happy

The WORST thing someone can do after a breakup is to start moping and crying in front of everyone they know… and it’s especially annoying if they talk about it on social media. Don’t be one of those people. Not only is it incredibly annoying to people, but it’s also incredibly unattractive to your ex!

Now, it’s okay to be sad in this situation. You’re allowed to cry. You’re allowed to feel depressed, angry, and bitter about the breakup… but it’s never wise to broadcast these negative emotions to the world. Doing so will not solve any of your problems and you’ll appear pathetic and weak.

BUT… If you’ve already done this, then have no fear because there ARE work arounds. What you need to do is start posting happy, positive, and even funny things on your social media… even if you ARE feeling like a giant bag of dicks.

Remember, people are sexually attracted to VIBRANT, HAPPY, and POSITIVE people. Nobody wants to be with someone who is whining, crying, and complaining 24/7, right?

So instead, try and put yourself in a better, happier mindset. Not only will you feel better about yourself, but once your ex sees how happy YOU are, they’ll be crawling back to you for MORE in next to no time at all!

9. Use My Free Quiz Tool

Get a better sense of your chances with this potent breakup diagnostic.

It only takes a few minutes to complete and it will generate a score that will determine your chances of getting back together with your ex. And based on HOW you answer these questions… you’ll be given a PERSONALIZED list of psychological tips and tricks you can use on your ex right now to make them wish, want, and need you more intensely than ever.

Yeah, I know, this “tip” isn’t really so much a sneaky tip in itself, but it’ll help you come up with even MORE covert and powerful techniques that you can use TODAY on your ex.

Brad Browning

Brad Browning is widely regarded as the world's most trusted breakup experts, boasting over 12 years of experience working with clients from around the world. Brad's #1 best-selling breakup reversal guide, The Ex Factor, has helped more than 130,000 people from 131 countries to re-unite with an ex. Brad is also the author of Mend The Marriage, a comprehensive self-help guide that teaches married couples how to save their dying marriage and prevent divorce. Brad’s YouTube channel has over 400,000 subscribers and 50 million views, and he has been featured in a number of well-known media outlets and industry journals.