How To Undo Past Mistakes & Win Your Ex Back

You want to get your ex back but you’ve already made some major mistakes such as begging, pleading, apologizing, or worse.

Can you still win over your ex?

Is there any hope at all?

Don’t worry. I’ve figured out the foolproof formula to undo past mistakes and win your ex back, no matter what you’ve done.

Undo The Mistakes You’ve Made With Your Ex

First of all, let me just make one thing clear: I don’t believe in beating yourself up over past mistakes.

It really won’t help you to sit around stressing out about what you’ve done or said in the wake of your breakup… so, don’t bother.

Instead, just be thankful that you’ve now recognized what you did wrong, and commit yourself to getting it right from this point onwards so that you can maximize your chances of starting over with your ex.

You definitely do want to avoid making further mistakes, of course, so please consider signing up for my comprehensive Ex Factor Program to ensure you’ve got a clear, proven strategy moving forward.

Let’s begin with one of the single most common mistakes people make: begging and pleading with their ex.

I completely understand why people do this after a breakup… it seems logical that gushing your heart out and telling your ex how much you love them and miss them would potentially convince them to give your relationship another chance.

But, trust me on this one… it DOES NOT work like that.

In fact, begging your ex for another chance…

Apologizing over and over again for things you’ve done or said…

Telling them how you feel about them…

…all of these things are going to actually do the opposite of what you’re hoping for. This type of thing almost always hurts your chances.

The real secret behind getting your ex back is to rebuild the level of attraction he or she feels for you. In order to do this, you need to speak to your ex’s “Emotional Control Center”.

When you beg and plead with your ex, you’re only speaking to the left side of their brain, or the logical, rational part. But when it comes to love and relationships, there’s nothing logical or rational about the way humans make decisions.

We’re strictly driven by EMOTION when it comes to relationships, so you really need to tap into the right side of your ex’s brain — the “Emotional Control Centre”.

This is really the only way you’re going to be able to re-build your ex’s desire and attraction for you.

Now, the first step in doing this — and therefore starting to undo any past mistakes you’ve already made — is to “wipe the slate clean”. Right now, thanks to your past begging, pleading, and other mistakes, your ex probably thinks of you as that ‘desperate loser ex’ that’s still pining after them.

They likely think you’re heartbroken, lonely, and upset right now… and even though that might be true, the first step in rebuilding attraction again is to make sure that your ex doesn’t think this.

You need to convey to your ex that you’re okay with the breakup and that you aren’t heartbroken.

There are 3 things you can do to achieve this.

#1 – Use my ‘Clean Slate’ Message template

The Clean Slate message is something I’ve come up with to help erase the negative image of you that your ex has in the back of their mind. It’s not something you can just send out of the blue, and it should only be used in very specific situations. I share the full message with you here.

If you’ve really made some major mistakes since the initial breakup and you’re confident your ex has a highly negative impression of you right now, you can sign up for my Ex Factor program risk-free and learn more about how to use this powerful copy-and-paste message to erase some of those negative thoughts in your ex’s mind.

#2 – Employ the No Contact strategy

Look, I know you don’t want to hear about No Contact again. I’m sure you’re already aware of what this strategy is, and how well it works, but shutting down all communication with your ex is absolutely critical to shifting their perception of you and helping to undo past mistakes.

Another advantage to using the No Contact strategy? You can’t make any more mistakes when you’re not interacting with your ex at all.

If you haven’t already done so, now is the time to start employing the No Contact rule. It’s been proven many, many times by various research studies that humans have a natural tendency to let go of negative memories and feelings over time… so by ignoring your ex for 30 days, you’re using this ingrained natural tendency to help erase your ex’s memories of your past mistakes and the more negative aspects of your relationship and your time together.

Simply put, No Contact works, and it’s a great way to help “reset” your ex’s emotions and return them to an “emotional neutral” state.

#3 – Subtly Show your ex what they’re missing

Remember what I said earlier about the importance of conveying to your ex that you’re NOT desperate, needy, and sitting around heartbroken over the breakup? Well, there’s plenty of ways you can subtly sub-communicate this to your ex.

One of the most effective ways is to post photos and/or updates to social media that showcase you doing interesting, fun things… or better yet, hanging out with new friends of the opposite sex.

Now, inciting jealousy can be a bit dangerous and backfire on you if you don’t do this carefully — subtlety is critical here — but simply posting a photo of you with some new friends on Instagram can cause your ex to subconsciously alter their feelings towards you and upend their mental expectations about what you’re doing since the breakup.

Another way to achieve the same thing is to make subtle comments when speaking with your ex, or mutual friends you have in common… so for instance, you could — once your No Contact period is over, of course — send your ex a text message asking them something like this:

Hey, does your friend Paul still organize weekly scuba dives? A friend and I just finished our scuba certification and we’re looking for new people in town to dive with this summer.

Of course, you’ll need this to actually be TRUE — don’t just randomly start lying about this type of thing to your ex. But, as you can see, this message appears totally benign and believable. You’re just asking your ex a simple, legitimate question.

Subtly, you’re also hinting that you’ve just finished your dive certification, and therefore you’re doing fun, exciting, and interesting stuff since the breakup… and you’re even creating a sense of mystery by referring to an unnamed “friend”, which will make your ex wonder who this person is and why you didn’t mention them by name.

Again, you need to be subtle when doing this type of thing, or else you’ll look silly and your ex will see through to your true intentions… but if you can use this type of strategy properly, the way I describe in my Ex Factor program. it’s an extremely effective way to help shift your ex’s feelings about you, and help to undo the damage from past mistakes you’ve made since breaking up.

Brad Browning

Brad Browning is widely regarded as the world's most trusted breakup experts, boasting over 12 years of experience working with clients from around the world. Brad's #1 best-selling breakup reversal guide, The Ex Factor, has helped more than 130,000 people from 131 countries to re-unite with an ex. Brad is also the author of Mend The Marriage, a comprehensive self-help guide that teaches married couples how to save their dying marriage and prevent divorce. Brad’s YouTube channel has over 400,000 subscribers and 50 million views, and he has been featured in a number of well-known media outlets and industry journals.