Is My Spouse Having An Affair? 6 Signs To Look For

Is your spouse having an affair?

Are they cheating on you right under your nose?

Has your spouse been unfaithful in the past?

I’m going to share with you 6 signs that this might be happening to you.

Is My Spouse Having An Affair?

Infidelity is one of the biggest marriage destroyers. And a lot of the times, even the strongest of marriages can’t even survive an affair.

WARNING! some of this information may be unsettling, no matter what situation you’re in. Here are some facts you should know if you find yourself asking the question, “is my spouse having an affair?”

FACT #1 Your partner could be showing almost all of these signs and still not be cheating on you. Take this information with a grain of salt because you can never be 100% sure until your partner admits it to you… or if you catch him or her red handed. However, the signs I’m about to talk about are most definitely an indicator of something wrong in your marriage, so it’s important to keep this in mind moving forward.

FACT #2 Your partner could be displaying almost NONE of these results and STILL be having an affair on you. In fact, it’s estimated that the vast majority of affairs go undetected. I know, if you’re in a happy marriage, this may be a hard fact to swallow… but facts are facts. Unfortunately, some people can be such amazing liars that their partners never find out.

FACT #3 Affairs can happen in good marriages too. Just because an affair takes place doesn’t mean the person committing the act is evil or an ‘awful person’. It is possible to salvage a marriage even after something as daunting as an affair. Just remember that no matter how difficult things may be for you in your marriage, you must maintain a strong, confident, and positive outlook if you have any chance to save your marriage.

The Top 6 Signs Your Spouse Is Having An Affair

These signs have proven time and time again to be the greatest indicators that your spouse is having an affair.

1. Your spouse gets aggravated easily

If your spouse is constantly picking fights with you about seemingly mundane things, it might be a sign that something is brewing deep down inside.

If you’re wondering “is my spouse having an affair?” you should know that dissatisfaction and irritability is a very common indicator.

So if your spouse is making you feel like you can’t do anything right, or you just seem like you can’t do anything to make your spouse calmer and more forgiving, it could be a sign their mind has been wandering lately.

If this is happening to you, it’s important to NOT snap back at your spouse.

For now, keep a cool head and find the right time to calmly ask your spouse why they’re acting this way. Minimizing conflict is the real way to win arguments with your spouse.

2. Your spouse is becoming emotionally distant from you

If your spouse is acting a little quieter, more withdrawn, or even depressed and sad, it could be a sign that there’s something going on that he or she isn’t telling you.

Tread carefully when you’re with an emotionally distanced spouse…

If something is really bugging him or her, you could really tip them off with the wrong words. Instead of prying, approach your spouse from a position of support. say something like…

“I know something is wrong, and I really want to help. If you don’t want to talk about it now, then I understand.”

Start from there and see where it goes. It takes restraint and patience to save your marriage.

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3. Your spouse is working longer hours

If your spouse is working beyond their typical work hours, then this might be a sign that there’s some infidelity that might be happening. If he or she is coming home late and/or taking some strange work trips, this can be a big indicator of infidelity.

4. Your spouse wants more “space”

If your spouse is uncharacteristically asking for more space or ‘room to breathe’, you can be sure that something is up…especially if things haven’t always been this way.

If your spouse is asking for more space, then give it to them and continue monitoring how they’re acting.

Sooner or later, you’ll be able to bring up this issue to your spouse and attempt to get to the bottom of their peculiar behaviour.

If you feel like your marriage is strained or if you feel like your spouse is slowly pulling away from you… click here and watch the free video presentation. I go over 3 ingredients that every marriage needs to be successful.

5. Your spouse is suddenly paying close attention to their appearance

This is a sign that he or she is trying to impress someone else. And if they’re trying to catch someone else’s eye then you’re bound to ask “is my spouse is having an affair?”

For example, if they’re buying new clothes, going to the gym, making sure their hair is spot on before he or she goes out, it could be a sign that they’re seeing someone they want to impress.

This is especially suspicious if the desire to look good comes along suddenly. So be on the lookout!

6. Your spouse is suddenly a stickler for their privacy

This should be a pretty obvious one, but it’s worth noting. If your spouse is suddenly scared about you prying into their life, then this is a huge red flag.

It’s important that both partners maintain some level of privacy in a marriage, however, if you feel like your partner is taking it too far, then you can be sure that they’re hiding something.

Here’s my favourite test… the next time you and your partner are together, pick up their phone and say you need to Google something. If they start freaking out, then you know something is up. Same goes for their computer…

Any sort of suspicious behaviour involving their electronic devices is a big clue.

Of course, this isn’t an exhaustive list of signs your ex may be cheating on you. If you feel like your spouse might be cheating on you, then I encourage you sign up for my personal coaching program. Together we can discover what your spouse is really up to… and I can go over some tried, tested, and true methods to make you can revitalize your relationship and save your marriage.

Brad Browning

Brad Browning is widely regarded as the world's most trusted breakup experts, boasting over 12 years of experience working with clients from around the world. Brad's #1 best-selling breakup reversal guide, The Ex Factor, has helped more than 130,000 people from 131 countries to re-unite with an ex. Brad is also the author of Mend The Marriage, a comprehensive self-help guide that teaches married couples how to save their dying marriage and prevent divorce. Brad’s YouTube channel has over 400,000 subscribers and 50 million views, and he has been featured in a number of well-known media outlets and industry journals.